We all had that one relative in our family that told outrageous stories about our ancestors! These stories were knee slapping, comical tales about how the family came into existence. These stories are important to the development of who we are – it instills a pride in us about our race and nationality. Have you determined if these stories are legacy, legends or lies? Let’s talk about it!
Legacy
Family historians know the facts because we have the documentation that proves who we are and where we come from. Additionally, we obtained physical items passed down to family members before and after death – photos, trinkets and heritage items like quilts, dolls and items that go waaaay back. We know the stories of the ‘old country’ or living ‘down South,’ telling the history of the family, happy or tragic, completely unsugarcoated. These stories never change, no matter who tells them. The proof is in the pudding.
Legends
The Griot
The technical definition of a griot is a West African historian, storyteller, poet and musician. This person tells the stories of the family that have been passed down from generation to generation. These stories might have some truth to them but there might be a mixture of facts and fables. They might be true but sometimes the details change over time because of who is telling the story or memories haved faded.
Lies
The Storyteller
You never know what you’re going to get with the family storytellers! You are hoping that the truth comes out in the end. The exaggerated stories are funny and hold your attention but easily refuted by other family members. These far fetched stories usually teach a lesson to the younger generations but the details change over time.
Your Family’s Oral History
Many family stories are passed down through the years but now is the time to stop and write them down. Have a conversation with your oldest family members and record them to transcribe later. Ask them memories of their childhood or family stories that they heard as children from family members. Make sure you follow these quick tips:
- Ask questions that require more than a “yes” or “no.”
- Start out with “tell me about your childhood,” it will lead to more questions about their siblings, their parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles, etc.
- Ask them what was going on historically at the time – civil rights movement, wars, presidents, etc.
- Ask them about their education.
- Ask them about their spouse and his family.
- Ask them about a hardship they are willing to share; this usually leads to family medical history, a family secret, family feuds, etc.
Generally, people like to talk about themselves and their families so just listen attentively and pay attention to everything – voice inflection, body language, facial expressions. You will know what to ask next if you recognize these indicators. Don’t worry about what is legacy, legends and lies…record it all and determine what the facts are later.
The most important part of this – genealogy is a family affair. When you transcribe these stories, make a book or add it to the family reunion journal to share with other family members. You never know, you might find out that someone has other pieces to the stories or has supporting documents or photos to prove a legend or lie true! Every family member has a contribution – don’t hog all the information to yourself!
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